13 Ways to Say Goodbye by Kate Fussner

Read: July 2025

Rating: 4.25 stars

Format: ebook

I gotta start out by saying that I am not a huge fan of novel-in-verse writing. I think that type of book is best read aloud, or in a small group. However, in Kate Fussner's 13 Ways to Say Goodbye, the verse is very fitting for this tender and moving novel. An excellent read for middle-grades, Fussner navigates the complexities of grief, self-discovery, family, and friendship, inviting readers into Nina's life as she tries to move on with her life after the death of her older sister.

Watching Nina gradually come out of her shell is like watching a chrysalis open, slightly painful, almost magical, and so very special. On a quest to complete her sister, Lily's "13 Before 13 list," Nina discovers more about herself as each day of her journey passes. Did I mention that this journey has her in Paris for the summer? Staying with her Aunt? Nina is almost as excited for the break from her parents, who never want to talk about Lily, while Nina is still desperate to process her sister's death. Each mission on this "13 Before 13" list is a tribute, in some way, to her sister. The bond between the sisters continue to shape Nina's present, making her journey relatable, and at times, almost fantastical, creating a powerful sense that connection transcends boundaries.

Sylvie, her aunt's friend's daughter, is Nina's "babysitter" for the summer, tasked with taking her to her art classes, and ensuring she returns safely home each day. As Nina explores Paris and works through Lily's list, her own self-discovery unfolds into a personal awakening beautifully intertwined with the blossoming between Nina and Sylvie. The delicate and genuine portrayal of this tentative tween romance is one of the book's many highlights, adding a layer of hopeful new beginnings within a grief-filled summer.

The story also tackles annoying family dynamics, an often universal experience in a teens world. Any teen struggling to communicate with or feel understood by their adults-in-charge will likely connect to aspects of Nina's experience incredibly relatable, adding a layer of emotional honesty to the story.

I think 13 Ways to Say Goodbye would make an excellent choice for classroom settings, either as a book club, or a potential read-aloud, for middle grades. Both literary style and emotional themes make it ripe for discussion. Beyond its educational potential, it stands out as a supportive and empathetic read for teens navigating the difficult journey of sibling loss.

Overall, I enjoyed 13 Ways to Say Goodbye, finding it a heartfelt and uplifting read. Kate Fussner's verse captures the nuances of a young girl's grief, the excitement of self-discovery, and the tender awkwardness of first love with remarkable sensitivity. It's a must-read for anyone looking for a story that explores loss with sweetness and celebrates the journey of finding your own voice.